Saturday, May 7, 2011

Difference of opinion, what do you think?

Yesterday at work we were having a discussion about Mothers Day, which is tomorrow in South Africa. We were discussing what we were going to do, what we would like and what our ideal mothers day was. One of our staff members also has her mother in laws birthday on Sunday, so they are having a big lunch with her husbands family at her house.
 Her own mother was invited to the lunch but has chosen to go to my colleagues brothers house for lunch, where she will see the rest of her children. So, my colleague will not see her mum in the day. My colleague mentioned that she will pop around to her mums house in the evening and her mum will cook her dinner. One of us suggested that why doesnt she package up some of the left overs from the party to take to her mum and they can use it as a sort of picnic supper to stop her mum from having to cook on Mothers day.
Well, a heated discussion about the propriety of this ensued. A few felt that this would be lovely since they would probably all be tired and then nobody would have to do any cooking. And that her mum would probably appreciate the gesture and being thought of and that she didnt have to do any work. The rest felt that this was inappropriate since it was left over food and that her mother would be offended, so she should let her mum cook. This group felt her mum would feel that they did not appreciate her if they bought left overs. The left overs in question were going to be roast lamb, potatoes, veggies, dessert etc, a proper meal, not finger food.
Of course, this got me thinking about what is right and what isn't. Personally I wouldnt mind if my daughter bought food over to me to save me from cooking, but maybe it is not right, so what are your thoughts about it? Would you be okay  with it, or would you be a bit offended?

10 comments:

  1. I'm all for the leftovers idea - it's the thought that counts right. And it sounds like those leftovers would be delicious!

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  2. I would appreciate that I did not have to cook. It would make it a more informal visit but that would be good :0)

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  3. Well my mother loves it when I cook for her, and I wouldn't dream of letting her cook for me on Mothers Day!

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  4. I know I would appreciate not cooking!

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  5. Uh-oh, family politics! Dangerous ground ;)

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  6. I love to see my children anytime, whether they bring something or not!
    Thank you for your comment on my blog for NSD!

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  7. I sometimes think leftovers are nicer than the original meal!

    And thanks for your comment on my blog - even though you don't sew! I appreciate you taking the time.

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  8. I'd simply ask my Mum what she'd like and leave it up to her: if she wanted to cook, I'd say thank-you and appreciate it, and if she wanted me to bring left-overs, that'd be fine with me too. :)

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  9. I would ask my mom which she would prefer. Or I might ask her if I could pick something up from her favorite restaurant that way nobody would have to cook and she would feel treated.

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  10. I would be tickled pink if someone supplied dinner for me and I didn't have to cook. It's not like the food was from last week and she was cleaning the refrigerator, it would be like bring home take out from a restaurant. But that's just me. Only this person would know what her mom might think.

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